If this is the first time when it comes to wedding planning, it can be more than a little daunting. This will probably be the biggest thing you have planned or will ever plan, and you might not have a clue where to begin. Before you start to panic – breathe, regroup, and take a look at our essential pre-wedding planning tips.

Keep some details secret

It might be a good idea to keep quiet on a few things. For starters, you want elements of your wedding to be a nice surprise for your guests. You will always have some less than welcome comments if you spill everything to everyone.

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Take advice with a pinch of salt

When it comes to weddings, everyone has an opinion. It’s more than likely your bridal party, friends, family, distant relative, and everyone in between will want to weigh in on what they think you should or shouldn’t do on your big day. While you should always be open to advice, especially from those who have done it before, be selective in what you take heed of. It’s your day, not theirs.

Make sure it’s both of you planning

Wedding planning should be a joint effort. Always remember to include your other half in the planning process. It’s easy to take on too much on your own and feel weighed down. Keep an open line of communication, trust and confide in one another.

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Trust your vendors

If you’ve spent the time scouting out the right vendors for your wedding, then let them do their job. Although this may be your first wedding, it isn’t them, so trust that they know what they’re doing and are professionals. It might be difficult if you prefer to have control, but it doesn’t mean you have to give it all away. Your vendors can work alongside you, not just for you.

It’s okay to get stressed/fight

Okay, so it’s a wedding. It’s totally acceptable to become a little frazzled now and then. Don’t beat yourself up for being not so calm. Just take a minute, breathe, and apologize. If it’s your vendors or wedding planners, they will likely understand and appreciate the apology. If it’s your other half, you will learn to give each other a break. Wedding planning is one of the top 3 most stressful things in life!

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Don’t sweat the small stuff

Yes, you want every detail to be perfect, but don’t waste your energy feeling stressed if it’s not. Your top priorities should be things like venue, photography, and outfits. And of course, you two. How many guests do you think will go home complaining that the chair covers weren’t quite the right shade or that the centerpieces should have had one more candle?

You get what you pay for

At Fizara, we are huge advocates of cutting costs through DIY titbits wherever you can, but before you start wedding planning, you should understand that some things are worth their cost. If you want perfect hair and makeup for your wedding photography, shell out for a professional. It all depends on what you want and what you’re willing to pay for.

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You don’t have to include everything

Weddings are becoming less and less traditional, and everybody should celebrate that. It’s okay if you don’t want to throw the bouquet, or smash cakes in each other’s faces (we certainly welcome this tradition disappearing!). Customize your wedding to include what you want, and get rid of things you don’t.

Have fun!

Despite the stress, wedding planning should be fun in parts, especially in the beginning. Talk to your partner, don’t sweat the small stuff, be realistic, and enjoy putting together the happiest day of your life.

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